Comments on: Why Do We Stink at Communication? https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/ Reading, Writing, Walking through life. Sat, 02 Mar 2024 17:08:56 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.2 By: Cathy https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/#comment-1218 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 23:36:12 +0000 http://www.millercathy.com/?p=3937#comment-1218 In reply to Lori.

Lori, I definitely think being so reliant on electronic means of communication affect listening skills. We already know we scan instead of reading. When was the last time we went off (even internally) over something we thought we read, only to discover we misread it. Is it any wonder, we mess up listening – something we don’t do as much as we used to anyway. 🙂

Thanks for your thoughts, Lori.

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By: Lori https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/#comment-1217 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 14:09:28 +0000 http://www.millercathy.com/?p=3937#comment-1217 Darnell has a point. It’s that people are so unheard in their personal and professional lives that when someone asks “How are you?” it’s a ten-minute monologue for a response. And I think those little screens we stare at have something to do with it.

It’s rare that I ask someone how they are or what they do that I get the question, or any question, back to me. I don’t even expect anyone to show an interest anymore. When they do, they intrigue me enough to want to spend more time talking with them!

We’re losing basic courtesies in our communications.

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By: Cathy https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/#comment-1216 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 19:15:16 +0000 http://www.millercathy.com/?p=3937#comment-1216 In reply to Devon Ellington.

I think that’s more than reasonable, Devon. I figure if you’re still conscious, you can get a quick message out that you’re running late.

Thanks for sharing your M.O., Devon. 🙂

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By: Devon Ellington https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/#comment-1215 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 18:29:01 +0000 http://www.millercathy.com/?p=3937#comment-1215 I loathe it when people are late, and I go out of my way to be punctual. To me, lateness is a passive-aggressive, personal insult tactic. It is the individual saying “your time isn’t worth as much as mine is, so you can just wait!”

Actually, I can’t.

I wait 15 minutes. Then, I leave, unless the person had the courtesy to explain they’re running late & are on the way.

When it’s a business appointment, I charge for the waiting time.

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By: Cathy https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/#comment-1214 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:34:12 +0000 http://www.millercathy.com/?p=3937#comment-1214 In reply to Sharon Hurley Hall.

Make that three. 😉

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By: Cathy https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/#comment-1213 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:33:51 +0000 http://www.millercathy.com/?p=3937#comment-1213 In reply to Anne Wayman.

Yes, it does, Anne-paraphrased in Maya Angelou’s inimitable style. 🙂

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By: Cathy https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/#comment-1212 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:32:46 +0000 http://www.millercathy.com/?p=3937#comment-1212 In reply to Darnell Jackson.

I hope it’s not that we don’t care, Darnell. Although you will find I have Pollyanna tendencies. 🙂 There are so many reasons for not listening (in my humble opinion) – distractions, insecurities, and as you say short attention spans.

I do agree, it’s sad that for all of our tools, we suffer so much in the communications department. Thanks for sharing your view, Darnell.

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By: Sharon Hurley Hall https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/#comment-1211 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:11:29 +0000 http://www.millercathy.com/?p=3937#comment-1211 In reply to Lori.

Love the phrase ‘terminally punctual’, Lori – it describes me too. 🙂

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By: Anne Wayman https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/#comment-1210 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 23:33:55 +0000 http://www.millercathy.com/?p=3937#comment-1210 Love the Maya Angelou quote too… didn’t know that one… it’s really back to the golden rule isn’t it.

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By: Darnell Jackson https://oldladybiz.com/why-do-we-stink-at-communication/#comment-1209 Thu, 10 Jan 2013 21:01:13 +0000 http://www.millercathy.com/?p=3937#comment-1209 Yes Cathy, We’re horrible at communication because we don’t listen anymore.

Everyone is talking about how short our attention spans have become.

The real problem is people don’t CARE what anyone else has to say. We just want to talk talk talk and stare at our little screens endlessly like we’re under a spell or something.

it’s sad.

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